Notes on AI, dating, and building Mira
Thoughts on how AI-assisted dating actually works, what makes online dating safe (or not), and the reasoning behind the product decisions in Mira.
Compatibility Isn't a Vibe — Here's What It Actually Means
Dating apps love to promise 'compatibility' without ever defining it. A closer look at what the word should mean, and why a percentage score usually isn't it.
Read article →What Actually Makes a Good First Message?
'Hey' isn't working, and neither is a five-paragraph essay. A practical breakdown of what makes an opener land, and why it's harder than it looks.
Read article →Dating App Burnout Is Real — Here's How to Tell You Have It
It's not just you. A practical look at the signs of dating app fatigue, why the format itself contributes to it, and what actually helps.
Read article →The Case for Mandatory Liveness Verification in Dating Apps
Optional verification badges don't fix catfishing — they just tell you who opted in. Why Mira treats liveness verification as a hard requirement, not a nice-to-have.
Read article →Why Manual Swiping Is Broken (And What To Do Instead)
Swiping was designed to be fast, not good. A look at why the mechanic that made dating apps popular is also the reason they burn people out.
Read article →How Mira's AI Persona Actually Works
A look under the hood at how Mira turns an onboarding interview into a persona your agent can actually act on — and why a shallow profile makes for a shallow agent.
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